This morning Joshua had a no holds bar fit this am. It started out as goofing around that got out of hand. Partly due to me and partly because he is 7 and doens't know when to stop. But I thought letting him scream and fight and get really angry he would feel better and move on.
Yes and no it worked. Didn't want to give me a kiss before he left for school and when the bus came he ran to be first in line. Then he looked over at me with that ha I don't need you look and I am going to get on the bus and there is nothing you can do... but after the bus doors open he stopped and started letting the other kids on the bus and he started toward the end of the line. He looked up at me and I went straight over and gave him a big kiss and hug and told him I loved him. I will see him later today at school so we shall see how the rest of the day goes.
It has been a week and I still don't know when the next meeting on Brandon is going to be. But the teacher will not help me on the meds that Brandon takes, she says she can't really say if they work or not, it will take more time. Uhm huh? He has been on them for two months and how much do you need? Even if we just switch the type of brand of medicine, she can't tell me if it has made any difference. So I am confused on what to do at this point. I think they need to be upped and may give it a try. Brandon's one on one teacher says she see improvement but he still is very distracted.
Friday, January 23, 2009
Thursday, January 15, 2009
-5 Today
We are waking up to a -5 degree day, without wind chill. It is only going to be a high of -5 today.
Which stinks because this is the second time we have schedule a meeting with the school to discuss Brandon. The first meeting was held last Friday but had to be cancelled because his teacher called in sick that day. It was also a really bad snow day too. But at least Don and I got to sit around and talk with the one on one teacher and the social worker. So now we have to reschedule AGAIN.
Howeer, we did get the psycologist eval to review for the next meeting and nothing on there surprised us in fact this is the best part. Under the header Testing Observation:
Brandon came with the examiner for testing on one occasion. He presented as friendly, cooperative, and talkative. Rapport was easily established and maintained throughout testing. At times, Brandon needed some re-direction, as his attention seemed to shift to items and objects around the examiner’s room. Brandon often was observed to talk while he worked. Overall, the results of testing appear to be valid for the purpose of addressing the reason for referral.
Brandon stated that he does not like school that much. Being that Brandon was tested around Thanksgiving, he was very eager to talk about how much he likes Turkey. He then proceeded to tell the examiner that he also likes eating macaroni and cheese. Brandon also told the examiner that he and his brother Josh “broke up.” He said that they do not like each other anymore.
I had to laugh because Brandon hates turkey and doesn't eat any meat, and the relationship with his brother is priceless.
Which stinks because this is the second time we have schedule a meeting with the school to discuss Brandon. The first meeting was held last Friday but had to be cancelled because his teacher called in sick that day. It was also a really bad snow day too. But at least Don and I got to sit around and talk with the one on one teacher and the social worker. So now we have to reschedule AGAIN.
Howeer, we did get the psycologist eval to review for the next meeting and nothing on there surprised us in fact this is the best part. Under the header Testing Observation:
Brandon came with the examiner for testing on one occasion. He presented as friendly, cooperative, and talkative. Rapport was easily established and maintained throughout testing. At times, Brandon needed some re-direction, as his attention seemed to shift to items and objects around the examiner’s room. Brandon often was observed to talk while he worked. Overall, the results of testing appear to be valid for the purpose of addressing the reason for referral.
Brandon stated that he does not like school that much. Being that Brandon was tested around Thanksgiving, he was very eager to talk about how much he likes Turkey. He then proceeded to tell the examiner that he also likes eating macaroni and cheese. Brandon also told the examiner that he and his brother Josh “broke up.” He said that they do not like each other anymore.
I had to laugh because Brandon hates turkey and doesn't eat any meat, and the relationship with his brother is priceless.
Monday, January 12, 2009
meds again
Ok so it was only been two days with the new medicine.... but this is what I notice.
Brandon was excitied to try something new, and it was a different color so that made it even more exciting... (yellow). I think he likes yellow because after the first day on Saturday of using it... he did say it helped him. Now he had no break downs and no major fits (fits but manageable) and he did seem to be more focused and willing to do things with us for us etc.
Then yesterday we asked him directly did he notice it helped and he said Yes they did and he wanted to take them. Does he like the color yellow???? Or a calm family time at home with the snow is what he needed.
However, one of our conversation went like this:
B “mom when are we getting the new shelves?”
M “It a couple of days”
B “So you mean in two days”
M “yes, it will be in two days”
B “So, today is Sunday so in two days that will be… Monday Tuesday. Tuesday right?
M “ yes on Tuesday we will get the new furniture.”
I was impressed he knew a couple of days were two and that the days of the week, what day it was and how long two day would take. This is a very different conversation than we normally would have. He could never tell you the day of the week even with lots of prompting. And now he figured it all out on his own.
Today he will come home from school so this will be interesting. Keep you posted.
Brandon was excitied to try something new, and it was a different color so that made it even more exciting... (yellow). I think he likes yellow because after the first day on Saturday of using it... he did say it helped him. Now he had no break downs and no major fits (fits but manageable) and he did seem to be more focused and willing to do things with us for us etc.
Then yesterday we asked him directly did he notice it helped and he said Yes they did and he wanted to take them. Does he like the color yellow???? Or a calm family time at home with the snow is what he needed.
However, one of our conversation went like this:
B “mom when are we getting the new shelves?”
M “It a couple of days”
B “So you mean in two days”
M “yes, it will be in two days”
B “So, today is Sunday so in two days that will be… Monday Tuesday. Tuesday right?
M “ yes on Tuesday we will get the new furniture.”
I was impressed he knew a couple of days were two and that the days of the week, what day it was and how long two day would take. This is a very different conversation than we normally would have. He could never tell you the day of the week even with lots of prompting. And now he figured it all out on his own.
Today he will come home from school so this will be interesting. Keep you posted.
Thursday, January 8, 2009
meds
I didn't think that Brandon's meds worked that well. I knew they helped him but I didn't see much. Then the other day I gave him his meds after school and he was calm focused and really listening. He still bounced off the wall and had some issues but less intense. So then yesterday I am thinking or not thinking he is ok and I don't give him his meds.... and WHOA he can't focus or follow any direction or stop and really listen to me. It got very frustrating so I gave him some meds and it got better. But then his brother left the house for choir and he had one on one with me, so I wonder was he freaking out because he knew his brother was leaving and after his brother left he was ok or did the meds help?
So now today I am going to get new meds and it should be interesting to see how these work. I hate changing because even if the other meds were not 100% effective you at least knew what to expect. Now we have to start all over and I won't be able to give him meds at all in the afternoon. AHHH
But at least Brandon is looking forward to trying something new. I think these are similar to the drugs he takes in the afternoon. He likes those better.
So now today I am going to get new meds and it should be interesting to see how these work. I hate changing because even if the other meds were not 100% effective you at least knew what to expect. Now we have to start all over and I won't be able to give him meds at all in the afternoon. AHHH
But at least Brandon is looking forward to trying something new. I think these are similar to the drugs he takes in the afternoon. He likes those better.
Monday, January 5, 2009
P & Q's
Wasn't minding your p & q's about manners? Well for me today it is PEACE & QUIET, what is that? It is where my kids go back to school and I stay home!!
Brandon complained of a sore throat but I told him, if it gets worse or you still can feel it tell your teacher and go to the nurses station. She can call me and I will come and get you. Amzing how you never hear from the child all day. They tend to forget how sick they are once they are at school. Hmmmm how does that happen.
Josh was ready to go and have a good time, he even had a pretty good attitude for Josh. He is not my morning person at all. Tonight it will be interesting to see how they hold up. After school I have to go to a friends house and they will have to play for a while, bummer. (smile) YEsterday we went to the local children's museum to let them run around and get tired. It worked they fell asleep before 8:00 p.m last night.
Brandon complained of a sore throat but I told him, if it gets worse or you still can feel it tell your teacher and go to the nurses station. She can call me and I will come and get you. Amzing how you never hear from the child all day. They tend to forget how sick they are once they are at school. Hmmmm how does that happen.
Josh was ready to go and have a good time, he even had a pretty good attitude for Josh. He is not my morning person at all. Tonight it will be interesting to see how they hold up. After school I have to go to a friends house and they will have to play for a while, bummer. (smile) YEsterday we went to the local children's museum to let them run around and get tired. It worked they fell asleep before 8:00 p.m last night.
Sunday, January 4, 2009
new year - ramblings
I have time to post and just going to ramble. Brandon is still very disregulated from the holidays. It will be interesting to see how he makes it through the week when he has to go back to school. I can see where the ADHD medicines helps him but yet he is so quick to yell and scream over so many things you want to scream at him. But I don't, I just calmly remind him that it is inappropriate. This is where I wonder whether this screaming behavior and disregulation is the medicine reaction, his attachment issues, or maybe FAE which he may or may not have. Or a combo of everything and I know he can't cope with so much down time.
Teaching a child how to cope with everyday life can be very exhausting. I listen to other families that have similar type "label" children and yet they go through so much more than we really do. You try to describe your child and you get this cross eyed look like all kids are like this. How do you explain that yes all kids get disregulated but it is when they stop or cope with it their behavior can change and yet your disregulated child, can't do that.
Josh on the other hand, will get disregulated and you can say go to your room or let him have a tantrum and he will get through it. Once he realizes that he would rather play than spend time in his room or he melts down he can move on. Brandon just can't. You explain it once or twice or ten times and then within the next hour he is at this odd behavior again. He doesn't get it.
Teaching a child how to cope with everyday life can be very exhausting. I listen to other families that have similar type "label" children and yet they go through so much more than we really do. You try to describe your child and you get this cross eyed look like all kids are like this. How do you explain that yes all kids get disregulated but it is when they stop or cope with it their behavior can change and yet your disregulated child, can't do that.
Josh on the other hand, will get disregulated and you can say go to your room or let him have a tantrum and he will get through it. Once he realizes that he would rather play than spend time in his room or he melts down he can move on. Brandon just can't. You explain it once or twice or ten times and then within the next hour he is at this odd behavior again. He doesn't get it.
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Happy New Year
We made it to the new year. The boys were very excited since we were going to a friends house to party. I figured we would stay up til 10 and go home.. and everyone would be exhausted. However, we made it until midnight!! Yeah, I don't think I have done that in 6 years.
We watch the ball drop with Dick Clark at 11:00 p.m. and we celebrated with poppers, blow horns (never again- with Brandon) and hats. The boys got a bit excited after that. They had started running around and screaming so we had to do threaten we would leave and they all settled down and we ended up to midnight.
The five boys stayed downstairs most of the evening while we woman sat upstairs and chatted and the men played Rockband 2. The men eventually had to quit and let the boys play with the Rockband. A good thing Santa brings this toy for the entire family. We had a good time. We left at 12:05 pm and the streets were empty. It was eerie but we figured everyone was now officially celebrating the New Year. It was kind of nice to be the only vehicle out on the road, I felt safe.
So I was impressed we stayed up so late even though we celebrated early, we made it to midnight!! I think today will be a mellow day. The boys have had some colds and cough so we will be lazy. But isn't every holiday day like that?
We watch the ball drop with Dick Clark at 11:00 p.m. and we celebrated with poppers, blow horns (never again- with Brandon) and hats. The boys got a bit excited after that. They had started running around and screaming so we had to do threaten we would leave and they all settled down and we ended up to midnight.
The five boys stayed downstairs most of the evening while we woman sat upstairs and chatted and the men played Rockband 2. The men eventually had to quit and let the boys play with the Rockband. A good thing Santa brings this toy for the entire family. We had a good time. We left at 12:05 pm and the streets were empty. It was eerie but we figured everyone was now officially celebrating the New Year. It was kind of nice to be the only vehicle out on the road, I felt safe.
So I was impressed we stayed up so late even though we celebrated early, we made it to midnight!! I think today will be a mellow day. The boys have had some colds and cough so we will be lazy. But isn't every holiday day like that?
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