Christmas Here and Gone

Well we made it throught the Christmas holidays. What was really nice was we were able to even stop giving Brandon the Benadryl at night because he was tired and relaxed enough to get some sleep. Usually we are having to help him get some rest for the holidays at night because he is so wound up he can't relax and go to sleep. That was nice to see and enjoy. He has a cold now so we will see how things go.

Speaking of not relaxing, we spent the holidays at my folks and my brother has a very excited boy as well. He is only 5 but he was so worked up for the holidays that by the time he was able to open his gifts Christmas morning he threw up. I think Brandon gets a bit overworked but he has never thrown up over all the commotion. We know my brother's son was worked up because there was no fever and 1/2 way through the day he felt better.

Josh had a great holiday but didn't like the sense of humor on one of his gifts. We gave him an Xbox, but it wasn't the toy...or video game it was a plain white box with an X on it. Couldn't resist giving him the toy. He took it in good stride, and so for Dad's birthday he will give him a rock with the word band on it... rockband...

I am not alone

I read a few blogs that are out there. I feel for some people and what they have to go through I really do. It is interesting when you read other blogs about people and when they bring their child home and you hear or read how wonderful things are and how they couldn't be happier. And then you see the blog where it goes wrong and there is trouble.

Now I have to admit, there are times I am truly jealous when families bring home their babies and things are going wonderful..... I didn't have that experience. What makes me sad is at one point their blog is turn off or password protected etc.. then you find out they are having lots of issues. Then I feel sad and bad for the families. I want to reach out but I really don't know how, my issues are not the same and some people don't want ot hear from strangers... (shut off their blogs). What is the proper thing to do?

Some respond and are glad to hear from you and don't feel so alone and well some get offended. So for now I just read and only make comments to people I have talked to some how.

I guess I post this because I just got off reading of one family that brought their daughter home and she was doing remarkable and then they vanish from blogging for months... then one day appeared and said their child was RAD, and they posted some of their problems. I really feel for this family. They have worked with her for 1 1/2 years and still some of their closest friends and family don't believe there are issues. Well I have to say if you every questions a family that has adopted and things look wonderful, go and talk with a social worker/ couselor with adoptive kids. They will give you the stats and how this is a HUGE problem in the adoptive world, it is workable and kids can be just fine, but there is lots of help and support from family and friends that are needed.

I guess it made me realize sometime you need ot put yourself out there so others might contact you instead of you contacting them. If anyone is reading my blog.

I said something stupid today

OK, so I have been wanting Brandon to stay home this week because his cold has gotten worse. Brandon has been insisting on going to school since they have started roller skating in gym... he loves it. So this morning he was sleeping so peacefully I didn't wake him and just woke Josh.

This is working out and I have breakfast with Josh and talking about school and I mention I might do some Christmas decorating today in the hallway. Thinking he would just say ok.... well he didn't say anything but when I went to sign his agenda for school he got very upset with me. I didn't need to sign it, I do it wrong and he will be on yellow it is all my fault... I was like what is wrong with you ? We have to go to the bus please talk to me? He is crying and carrying on and HE was very ANGRY and won't walk with me or talk to me..... so I don't get him on the bus ...

SMACK ME ON THE HEAD: "we are decorating" Brandon was staying home and Josh was going to school... do you think he a bit upset? Could I blame him? I had to apologize, my bad.