I have been working lately and it is now taking a toll on me. I have less energy in the evening to help Brandon and work him through some very intense times. And then I have to stop and realized HEY it is getting better.
Currently the biggest obsticle I face are his meltdowns or screaming two year old tantrums. As long as I can stay calm and reassuring I can get him to calm himself and move on. I went to a FAS Meeting the other day for parents. I would say the biggest thing to work with is knowing they know but that the child is unable to recall what he/she to know at the moment. That gets hard.
The other day we had stayed up late the night before school. Brandon had his meds late and was bouncing off the walls and stayed up til 11 pm/. I let him sleep in and figured I would take him in when I go. Needless to say Josh had a meltdown that his brother got to sleep in and go later. He ended up missing the bus and then I had to take both boys to school. BUT the interesting thing was after school. Brandon came home and was upset or livid that he had homework from the stuff he missed in the morning... which of course was his brother's fault. He was late because HIS BROTHER had cried about going on the bus. He totally didn't remember he SLEPT IN and he was up the night before. It all landed on his brother. I had to explain the reality to him. He was late because he had been up late and I had let him sleep in. His brother had nothing to do with it. It was him mom thinking he needed to sleep in and he was the reason why we all were late going in. But that is not what he remembered just his brother crying missing the bus. He can't be part of the blame or problem even when he is. This was my doing if anything.
Meanwhile while Brandon and I are talking, Josh is emptying his backpack and putting the stuff from his lunch away (ice pack in frig) and doing his homework. This is done without any prompting by me.
