Nobody can understand this better than another parent with a child that has FAS. Where to begin, I got up to walk this am and there was some garage sales in the other subdivision.. I found a costume for Brandon. He loved it and of course he had to wear it. No big deal, because most 11 year olds run around in costumes in the middle of summer.
Well we went to a video store and the boys were picking out video games for the WII. In comes walking a little girl he knows from school. When she saw Brandon she said "what are you wearing?" and I could actually see Brandon slightly cringed and then seem embaressed a bit but quickly got over it when he said just a costume he just got and she was like "oh" then they moved on. I am glad this girl is pretty open to people and if they are nice, all is good. Unfortunately, a boy his age thinking they were cool may of laughed (but don't know since it didn't happen).
Then when we came home, Brandon and Josh got to play their video games. Brandon went first of course and of course we lost him while he was playing. (slightly zoned out and doesn't know you are talking to him) When the buzzer went off for him, well he got mad.... as expected. He got angry at "Josh" why at Josh, because he blames his brother for everything... I had told him to get off and he didnt' hear me, Josh did and all Josh asked to do was go to the main menu. Long story short... Brandon got mad and stomped around the house and yelled an got angry at everything!!
So now, I have to have him relax and sit until he can Quit blaming his brother and figure out a better solution. HE DID and not what I expected. I was so proud of him. He finally after 20-30 minutes realized that he didn't like his brother telling him to get off. (which Josh didn't but not the point) he finally said.. "instead of getting mad I should of asked you. I should have paused it and found you and asked." He realized he could pause and FIND ME (not just yell or expect someone else to do it) but to find me and ASK ME. He still may of had a fit, but hey.... just knowing he figured it out makes me smile.
Now I got to get my Josh to bed early tonight, a bit on the cranky side (another post)
Friday, June 22, 2012
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Can I breathe?
Today I received a compliment about one of my boys. They had notice his growth and his maturity. WOW this is the child I am constantly feeling like I struggle with and hope and pray he will mature...
I worry about his future, is there hope are we going in the right direction, what else can I do??
Well I guess we are doing the right thing. We are learning to balance what needs to challenged and when to rescue. Knowing all the hard work you are doing in rasing a child with an invisible diability is working... makes you breathe.
We will have constant struggles and hurdles, but know you are headed in the correct path or it seems make it great. I heard this awhile ago by another parent of an ADHD child, so we keep chopping away at it.
Breathe, breathe breathe breathe...
I worry about his future, is there hope are we going in the right direction, what else can I do??
Well I guess we are doing the right thing. We are learning to balance what needs to challenged and when to rescue. Knowing all the hard work you are doing in rasing a child with an invisible diability is working... makes you breathe.
We will have constant struggles and hurdles, but know you are headed in the correct path or it seems make it great. I heard this awhile ago by another parent of an ADHD child, so we keep chopping away at it.
Breathe, breathe breathe breathe...
Monday, June 4, 2012
Summer is Coming
Today is our last day of school!! Yeah. Hopefully our summer will be fun even though it will be short and sweet. We have our pool pases but with this weather don't know if we will be using. We will be traveling a lot to WI to check up on my sister and my dad.
This is the summer for my dad without my mom. Kind of sad, but the season changes are hard on him. I am hoping he makes it through the first year. He has his ups and downs and he is opening up in many ways and my sister's are able to make a new connection to a man I knew. I worked with my father and spent many hours with him that I learn how to hear him. My sister's did not. They are learning now and is nice to see.
I hope I post enough this summer to keep track of the lovely little moments we tend to frustrate over only to discover later it was nothing. Yet, to charish the wonderful moments we have.
We traveled to WI so the boys could attend a football camp with the Green Bay Packers. We had a great time and the boys really enjoyed it. We stayed overnight and in the night I heard Brandon making noises so I went to him and pick him up to take to the bathroom.... as I scooped him up my little guy cuddled into my arms and still so much asleep said "I lover you mommy." How sweet is that.
Brandon is growing and having his growing pains, but moments like this..... melt your heart.
Post pictures soon.
This is the summer for my dad without my mom. Kind of sad, but the season changes are hard on him. I am hoping he makes it through the first year. He has his ups and downs and he is opening up in many ways and my sister's are able to make a new connection to a man I knew. I worked with my father and spent many hours with him that I learn how to hear him. My sister's did not. They are learning now and is nice to see.
I hope I post enough this summer to keep track of the lovely little moments we tend to frustrate over only to discover later it was nothing. Yet, to charish the wonderful moments we have.
We traveled to WI so the boys could attend a football camp with the Green Bay Packers. We had a great time and the boys really enjoyed it. We stayed overnight and in the night I heard Brandon making noises so I went to him and pick him up to take to the bathroom.... as I scooped him up my little guy cuddled into my arms and still so much asleep said "I lover you mommy." How sweet is that.
Brandon is growing and having his growing pains, but moments like this..... melt your heart.
Post pictures soon.
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