Not alone

I  realize it has been a long time to post and that I had really dropped the ball.  The holidays were typical and we hit a bump in Feb. with a neighbor child (a long story) and two boys busy with school and activities there has been little time.

However, since I have stop to look at blogs and re visit some old blogs... I realized, I am not alone.  Some of us have not updated in a long while.  I am not alone and that sometimes you drop off the web world and start all over again...

hoepfully I will keep it up.

neuro feedback

I started last summer with neuro feedback on Brandon.  We are now reaching a point where we are "suppose" to see a difference.  The main difference I see is the frustration he is feeling at school and the yelling and complaining he does to me and Josh.  It gets tiring from time to time that you don't know how to take him.  On one hand I feel sorry for him.  You can tell he is confused but yet he does know what is going on around him and he doesn't know what to do about it and yes it makes him sad.

Then on the other hand, I get very frustrated because he gets so carried away and off the mark that it is hard to talk to him and help him put it into an understanding.  He is so bent on blaming and screaming and making sure we all know how he feels he can't listen to what we have to say.  He is blind to what he is saying and so you can't reach him to understand any situations.

This is when you have to STOP.  Stop listening to him and stop trying to talk.  You can't talk to a drunk.  They hear you and repeat what you are saying but hey... they don't really follow anything you say.  They are a lot of fun but have no responsibility.

So I say we are learning to stop.  We all need to calm down before we can talk to each other.  It is hard to do when you want to go here and there and just get on with the day.  But you can't it is not possible.  So I am learning no talking and no listening to a child that is really just rattling off his frustration and not what he is going through.

It is tough to do and there are days I am NOT good at it.  I try but I want to do things and go places and not live in a world where it is measure by what a child is capable of.   Then it hit me smack in the face... I don't.  I have to prep him about the days that won't fall under the "normal" routine.  I have to explain why we have change things up and how it will effect him.  Again it is the unknown that really is hard for kids; much less a child that lives in a black and white world.

So is the Neuro working??  I am not sure but I notice when I make more of an effort to stay calm and say very little... I have a child that is starting to stop and think about things or say "ok moma" or "yes I can."  He needs time and not our timeline a timeline for him to put it into his head.