With a child that thinks differently as a parent you MUST think differently too. It is not easy and sometimes you are ahead of the curve and sometimes you are way behind.
Brandon has a hard time to adjust to school the things that upset him would not upset you or I, but they do to him. I have to respect that and sometimes I can and sometimes I just can't. Because I don't understand where it is coming from. So you have to look into his world and see where he is coming from all of this and then it can make sense.
One thing about a child with FASD is that they can recall things. However, they can recall things when they can and NOT when YOU want them too. So even though they can doesn't mean you can ask them a question about yesterday and get a correct answer. You many not get the correct answer until a week later or IF you know exactly what happen you can prompt.
However, if you prompt a child, he will figure out which way you are going and tell you what you want to hear and again NOT what it is. So it gets frustrating and you spend time on very important information and try to mold him/her. Kids lie and make up stuff but a child with FASD can't.
FASD children can't make up stuff they are very black and white and sometimes I get stories that don't make sense and then I realize he is pulling from past experiences and using tools that he has learn today. Again not a reality in this moment, but over time it might be.
So I am learning to smile and nod and when my child is so frustrated the language that comes out of his mouth (I don't care if "kids this age" use it) I have to ignore him. His world becomes very small and then he has to do things that make him think. Video games don't make him think, they make him spiral out of control and he knows it but he isn't happy.
However, I think after a week of two of the constant you will and what he will do he is learning it is ok to sit and think and reflex. Whether he will be able to apply it, we shall see.
