OK so we put Brandon on his ADHD medicines. It has been an interesting ride. Is the meds making him remember more than before or is it maturity? Is he crashing hard off the meds or coming down with a cold. So many variables no wonder it takes forever to determine what dose you need when how long etc. It gets confusing but at least the dr and the nurse I talk too understand and realize we will be doing many many researches with meds to find the right one.
Currently, we up his meds and it seems to make things better but I am wondering if we could make it more better. You know? Little things are better but I often wonder... do you dose them until they are comatose so you know you have gone to far? I really don't want to do that but yet it makes you wonder if you are doing enough. We started the meds because keeping this child focus is an all day activity.
How do you know if you need meds? Well for starter this is our day..." Brandon please eat breackfast, honey time for breakfast, I know you find this entertaining but please eat your breakfast, Brandon you food... eat.... time to go soon finish..
Get your shoe ons, yes your shoes, yes I know the cat is there, get your shoes on, no the one from yesterday, yes those, put them on each foodt get your coat your coat, the thing you wear over your clothes.... your coat.. book bag??? DO I start or are you getting the conversation?
NOW for the other dear child today ..we had a major meltdown. Necessary? Absolutely. He had a bad day at school and I am to blame. First off I substitute as a school noon aide. And today his or the boys school needed me. One of the noonaides shouted out to be quiet and settle down well unfortunately in the heat of the moment, Joshua spoke up and yelled out too.. settle down. I was across the room and I thought it was him, but the noonaide went over to another child and talked to him.. So I see Josh and I ask him if he yelled. He admitted to it. So then I tell him he needs to apologize for being disrespectful. Well he thinks he can just walk away from me and ignore my authority at school!!! YIKES So I make him stand on the wall and he gets mad, but I wanted him to wait for the noonaide to apologize. Well he starts freaking out and screaming at me that he needs me.. I tell him I will be right back that I need to deal with 100 other kids and then he and I can talk with the other noonaide. Well he decides to run away..... now he is being disrespectful to me. He is angry and I am getting upset. Long story short, we or he apologized to the noonaide and promise not to have it happen again. Then after school Joshua is still having and attitude with me so we go and have ice cream to chat.
He won't say much but ignores me so I let it go. Then when we get home, things evolve again and I have to hold him and talk to him. He was very embarressed by today and I made him more uncomfortable, so we talk about it. I tell him I understood he needed me to be with him while he apologized to the noonaide but at the moment I needed to send out the other 100 kids lining up. Because he started getting so upset and disrespecting me I got upset too. I told him we did not do a good job at communicating and we had to get better. I told him I understood why he scream out.. a spur of the moment thing... but he had to apologize and I knew he needed me but he had to wait until I could become available, not scream and kick and totally disrespect me that he was crying and trying to run away from me. This makes me look bad to the other students if I can't even handle my own. But I knew he needed me that next time we needed to make better choices. So har for a 7 year old to understand and I hope next time we both can make better choices.
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