tooth fairy

Josh lost his front tooth !! It has been almost sideways for a week now and last night it fell out. Well the tooth fairy was lucky and got up at 3:00 am to use the facilities and realized she hadn't done her job. So in a sleepy haze she put three coins in a baggie and took the tooth from under Joshua's pillow and then fell into a deep sleep.

Then I was awoken by a little voice of Joshua's Brother Brandon... "Mommy, the tooth fairy forgot to leave a note?" Hmmm Mom "what kind of note." Brandon "you know that she left money, a note."

OK now a flashback, a few years ago when Brandon lost his front tooth we had the tooth fairy bring Josh a note with a quarter saying "don't be sad, your time will come" and then the TF left him a quarter. We did this because they had wanted to sleep in the same room to see the TF and we knew they would not sleep so we said no and then Joshua was quit upset he had not lost a tooth yet. Well he has lost two since and might I add without a note.

But for some reason this was weighing on Brandon's mind. I told him maybe the tooth fairy knew that the boys would share (ha) but I told him to NOT wake his brother and to NOT ask him. Dumb move, he woke him and asked about sharing and then threw himself into a fit all morning over everything. I explain to him when you wake someone up and then demand something from them more than likely they will say no. He could not put a grip on this, just upset. So Mom does the best thing she could think of... I put a quarter on his floor and had Brandon find it. Still upset because his brother got three quarters and he got one. I told him it is because he had not lost a tooth, his brother lost the tooth. I figure at this point I am not going to win anything and I give up and set up breakfast. Now we are angry over other things.

I think much has to do witht hte family vacation soon. They are both nervous and Joshua is very afraid of flying. I mean scared to death of it for some reason. I can only think someone said something to him that has him very afraid. We have been trying to keep it calm. Brandon just acts out in different ways that can be exhausting and then you realize it has to do with something else.

This time of year is hard on both my guys. This is when we flew them from Ukraine to America, took them from everything they knew and enter them into a world of new sounds, smells, voices, language, routine without truly understanding what this does to a baby. Even if you are doing for all the right reasons, they still feel abandonment. It is a very difficult time now, and what are we doing?? We are leaving their routine and life as they know it and going to Disney!! Yeah for fun but this is really not the best of times for them. They need to feel safety. You would think I would learn this by now and not schedule anything but this is the best of times for Don and I. We loved that we became a family and we want to embrace it and enjoy it. Also, on vacations we really get to spend so much time with the boys especially Dad/Don.