Back to normal?

Josh no longer had pneumonia and is on the mend.  It will be awhile until he is completely healthy but headed in the right direction.  YEAH..

Brandon just got back from camp this past weekend.  I can't wait to see the photos he took.  The counselor said he dropped the camera nurmerous times and doesn't think we will get any photos.  We will have to wait and see.  But he had a great time.  He just had a really horrible time trying to firgure out his emotions.  Happy because he had fun but sad because he missed us.  Feeling bad that he didn't miss us while at camp but yet mad because he did go to camp.  He is still learning how to deal with his emotions.  So as usual we had him in a two year old mold and he coped.  He coped until he got home and wanted to play on the wii. (see below post) not a good choice when you are tired and emotional drained.  That took anthoer 45 minutes to get through and then he played with friends. 

He now wants to go to summer camp.  So I have signed him up but we won't discuss this until three days before he goes.  Then hopefully he won't get so worked up over it and full of anxiety.  I just hope I can keep a lit on this.  It shall be interesting.

old post that never made it

Well some of the exhaustion I have been feeling is slowly going away. Brandon was upped on his meds and it seems to make a difference. That is until, he played on the Wii. My goodness he gets so out of sorts playing the video games. You think I was the world's worst mother because I limit the time playing. I have too because he becomes so upset and nasty to everyone that it takes awhile to come down.

I know I know the big question... why does he get to play? Well he is the kicker, he played once this week only. I spent two days getting the frustration and anger out and moved to a positive direction. I don't think the Wii is all that bad but for some reason he cannot handle it so he won't. Maybe when school gets out and he can overload and I can walk away we may tryp again.

The weird thing is he can play at other homes or grandma's and not get this upset. On a flip note... Josh has been coming up with some doosies of comments..

"china is a great state... they make good toys."

"I am not crabby... I am only crabby in the morning when I have to get up" (after being told he has to go to be)

After telling him that he was pushing my envelope he wanted to know if I wanted it open or closed..... more pushing I tell you.

I have been posting these on facebook while they are fresh in my mind. He still wants to know why I would have kids if I didn't want to deal with their issues....hmmm

A Great Morning

This morning only Brandon was going to school.  Josh has been sick with pneumonia the past few days.  Luckily Josh is getting better but still needs some rest.

Well as you know Brandon can be a bit of a pill and a real sweetie.  This morning as we were watching a you tube video he looked over at me and gave me a big SMOOCH.  Smack on the lips for a good 15 seconds.  He has never done that before.  I was surprised and said "wow what was that for?"

and he looked at me and sweetly said "that is for being so mean lately."  AAWWW

I think he enjoyed a bit of one on one mommy/son time :)

ok not yet

after the below post we spent an hour or so talking about getting along... sign

What is going on?

After a weekend of constant fighting and blaming each other... they are now playing together nicely.  Hmmmmm

Is it because they have been apart at school?  Is it because I started a new chart systems on learning how to respectful.   Is it because the Wii if off limits for awhile since we could not be nice to one another? 

Or are they realizing they are brothers and they have each other?  I am reaching here but I think they are learning how to play again together for some reason.  Either way I should enjoy the moment and cherrish this and not really second guess it. 

Dealing with ones emotion

I have a child that doesn't get it. What he gets is how everyone or I should say his brother is out to get him. It doesn't matter that he screamed in his brother's ear or hit him in the arm and that got his brother so mad that he shoved him and unfortunately that shoved pushed him into the tub and he hurt his side. The only thing he remembers is that his brother shoved him into the tub. In his mind, his brother just walked into the bathroom and shoved him.

Or how about playing basketball with his brother. It is ok for him to block his brother and put his arms on his and grab the ball and practically run him over as they both go for a ball but when he fell.... who was to blame? his brother of course went out and tripped him. uhm what?? If your brother even came near him while he had the ball he would be screaming at him at how unfair he is.

Why doesn't he see his role in this? Because sometimes he can't and sometimes he can. The sad reality is when he can pull it out to the front of his brain he will get very nervous and you can see how uncomfortable this is for him to grasp. It truly is very sad to see him so nervous and anxious over this but I don't know of another way to teach him about himself. We must calmy remind him of what happened. We have to bring it up to him and go through the entire episode for him to grasb the reality of the situation. Explain his role in the situation over and over so he understands the world is not out to get him. How he is a part of the occurance, not just the bystander in this. I just hope that some day it will be understood by him and he will be able to make good choices.