I have a child that doesn't get it. What he gets is how everyone or I should say his brother is out to get him. It doesn't matter that he screamed in his brother's ear or hit him in the arm and that got his brother so mad that he shoved him and unfortunately that shoved pushed him into the tub and he hurt his side. The only thing he remembers is that his brother shoved him into the tub. In his mind, his brother just walked into the bathroom and shoved him.
Or how about playing basketball with his brother. It is ok for him to block his brother and put his arms on his and grab the ball and practically run him over as they both go for a ball but when he fell.... who was to blame? his brother of course went out and tripped him. uhm what?? If your brother even came near him while he had the ball he would be screaming at him at how unfair he is.
Why doesn't he see his role in this? Because sometimes he can't and sometimes he can. The sad reality is when he can pull it out to the front of his brain he will get very nervous and you can see how uncomfortable this is for him to grasp. It truly is very sad to see him so nervous and anxious over this but I don't know of another way to teach him about himself. We must calmy remind him of what happened. We have to bring it up to him and go through the entire episode for him to grasb the reality of the situation. Explain his role in the situation over and over so he understands the world is not out to get him. How he is a part of the occurance, not just the bystander in this. I just hope that some day it will be understood by him and he will be able to make good choices.
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