I am about to put a new website under my favorites when I look at my list on current favorites.
I realized I had many websites for newly adopted parents when I was a newly adopted parent and some of them have continue to blog even after they get home etc. I have some that they have quit posting but still have the blog up and then some that really don't exist. Some of these are 10 year old favorites!!
And yet, I keep them there? Why because it is my past. My past when I struggled with my kids. When I needed to find other parents like me that had smililar struggles and how they coped and how they did things and what really seem to work and what really didn't.
I learned a lot and I try to bring the good things into my house and then I fail and I pick up and try again. It gets really hard to stay calm and re think but it can be done. I realized I spend the first 4 years of my kids life looking at what others did to make things look so easy that I really didn't with my own. I mean I was there for them and did things but I don't think I listen enoughed or understood a lot of where they are coming from. Now I think I do as best as anyone can.
We are now heading into puberty. AGH and I find that I can do this on my own. I know it will be a big struggle and what people say how I handle and how I don't is their issue not my own. There is no right or wrong way but a path you learn with your kids of what works and what doesn't. So far love and trust go a very long way. You want your kids to feel loved and that you trust them. when the trust is broken, how to get it back on track. You will repeat this process many times but somewhere there is a glimmer of understanding and respect that grows with each other.
I have a friend who is struggling with her kids. I see it and I was with her.... yet she won't reach out and talk to people. She is hiding inside and trying to cope and that is not going to work. She is depressed.. so why don't I pull her out and talk to her? Because she isn't ready to listen. She won't hear what I ahve to say. She will continue to cope until she is ready to learn and open up and see that she isn't alone. I offered a tip the other day that made her open a bit... but time will tell.
So I keep my old post of others just in case they come back and update, I would love to know how many are doing. It gets harder as your kids get older. I am not the best to talk because I do post infrequently and someone pointed out I don't do a lot of photos either. So I am going to try to post more and keep my journal as much as I can. Maybe someday write a book. Ha
I realized I had many websites for newly adopted parents when I was a newly adopted parent and some of them have continue to blog even after they get home etc. I have some that they have quit posting but still have the blog up and then some that really don't exist. Some of these are 10 year old favorites!!
And yet, I keep them there? Why because it is my past. My past when I struggled with my kids. When I needed to find other parents like me that had smililar struggles and how they coped and how they did things and what really seem to work and what really didn't.
I learned a lot and I try to bring the good things into my house and then I fail and I pick up and try again. It gets really hard to stay calm and re think but it can be done. I realized I spend the first 4 years of my kids life looking at what others did to make things look so easy that I really didn't with my own. I mean I was there for them and did things but I don't think I listen enoughed or understood a lot of where they are coming from. Now I think I do as best as anyone can.
We are now heading into puberty. AGH and I find that I can do this on my own. I know it will be a big struggle and what people say how I handle and how I don't is their issue not my own. There is no right or wrong way but a path you learn with your kids of what works and what doesn't. So far love and trust go a very long way. You want your kids to feel loved and that you trust them. when the trust is broken, how to get it back on track. You will repeat this process many times but somewhere there is a glimmer of understanding and respect that grows with each other.
I have a friend who is struggling with her kids. I see it and I was with her.... yet she won't reach out and talk to people. She is hiding inside and trying to cope and that is not going to work. She is depressed.. so why don't I pull her out and talk to her? Because she isn't ready to listen. She won't hear what I ahve to say. She will continue to cope until she is ready to learn and open up and see that she isn't alone. I offered a tip the other day that made her open a bit... but time will tell.
So I keep my old post of others just in case they come back and update, I would love to know how many are doing. It gets harder as your kids get older. I am not the best to talk because I do post infrequently and someone pointed out I don't do a lot of photos either. So I am going to try to post more and keep my journal as much as I can. Maybe someday write a book. Ha
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