Life's little moments do add up..

I have talked before of a child's thought process and how he has little regard to others and stays in his two to five year mentality. It can be exhausting and frustrating because the empathy for his brother or family can be nil. However there have been times when he shows it for others and with reminders or prompts he can have some empathy. Brandon is a good child but has the me me me mentality and is also a very distracted child so you don't know what is on his mind.

Lately though, I don't know if if the patch (see other post) or neuro or the fact that he has been so freaking busy along with his brother that he is worn down to not think and going with the flow. Or just so wiped out that he is or has his family on his brain and things we have taught him. Things that if you are not raising a emotionally challenged child would not really get.

However, his brother stayed home today out of exhaustion and getting sick. This morning getting ready I only woke up Brandon and he ate breakfast and went to school. I mention his brother was not well and was sleeping. I helped him get ready a little bit since I did wake him up late since I wasn't working and only had one child to feed and send off.

Anyway, I was late picking him up after his school activity and I was getting ready to be getting the tone of "why are you late or where were you" etc... instead he saw me coming and came out the door and got in the car and didn't shut the door completely and so he twisted and re shut the door (this is something I always have to tell him) and he said "so how is Josh?" WHAT the first concern was his brother. So I said he was ok and then he said "I am beat." WHAT he is actually admitting he is tired and exhausted but wants to go to robotics and wants to keep going.

Is he so tired he can't think? Then I asked if he had homework and he said Yes and worksheet and proceeded to tell me about some things from school along with what happen at running club. It was a nice pleasant surprise because it was a calm tone of reflection not frustration.

After he comes home, Josh who isn't that sick, is getting bored and I hear him ask his brother to play cards with him and Brandon's response is "I can't Josh I have to get my homework done."

Who is this child??? I know this can be short lived and I am enjoying it and wanted to share since I feel I always share the ugly and not the good moments.... these are the moments too to remember. When you are so busy running from one activity to another you don't realize that some day you might miss it. My father chatted with a friend the other day and the only thing they could talk about was the days when I was in school and he was rasing us kids and how or what we did. They realized that those busy times were the good days and not the retired years without their spouses. So here to the good days and not so good.