It is so hard to watch your child struggle. They have their own things that make them tick or upset and sometimes what really surprises me is that I don't have a clue. I think I do but I don't and that is fine.
OK dealing with a child with FASD. |This is a post I didn't want to post but one I feel I need to post to move on and to forgive and not forget but to remember that "hey things happen" Yet at the same time I am saying things that are not true but make me think that really our society has become one where it doesn't matter if you do the right things or try to do the right things.... things can be determine on what others perceive and HEY your world can fall apart.
My biggest regret is not dealing with this sooner. I worry about my son ALL THE TIME. He is a sweet innocent boy who loves to play laugh and enjoy things. he is also a boy who is heading into high school and is maturing physically and yet mentally still in a struggle but wants to be older but then he comes a 7 year old. That is fine until you meet a person who says "no he is this age"
This is the dangerous type person to be around my son because you want to believe an adult until the adult must have some issues that are not resolved in their world that they throw at you. Case I am making, I have my FASD child and he plays with younger children.... no big deal. He plays with a child that is a lot younger and has a ball and the kid enjoys him. Their energy is high and they can have fun. Talk to the parents and remind them SEVERAL times that my child has no filters and you need to help.
so when my child is swearing and acting like a jerk send him home. Don't ignore it. Well this family did not listen because it is easier to let the kids play and eventually their child gets in trouble. So their child comes up with things he hears and so he blames my child. Guess what? it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. As a parent of a FASD child I believe what a parent is telling me and I get concern. Turns out the parent is full of shit and really thinks these horrible things and lets her child believe them. Not like an adult and talk to us but as we question the concern become bigger and then affects where I work and creates an awful environment..... what is their or her issues?
My child suffers. He doesn't understand and the sad thing is I don't either. I find out too late that there are things that must have happen with the OTHER family that has NOTHING to do with my child but they have FILTER it through mine. THEN get the a neighbor involved that is the police and then it becomes a police matter. Well at first I thought trusting the adult and something was up with mine child but then come to realize the Parent of this child must have SO MANY
ISSUES that she put on her kid that he has to blame mine. Why do kids lie? Not to get into trouble and yet that lie gets police involved that should not be and then because I feel my child has the FASD and that the Adult in the relationship would be clear .... my child is ACCUSED of things that never happen and that guess what become a negative thing within the people we deal with.
I AM UPSET with myself for thinking Adults in this world are being responsible adults and realizing they need to point a finger and walk away because of their own stupidity or whatever is happening in their lives to make sure other people suffer...... sad but my child is the one that suffers along with his brother.
The worst part is I thought Adults should know but I have learn Adults are idiots and have no maturity to understand. But a lesson learn too late and I can only build my child up over what I know. He is a great kid and he needs constand guidance and if you don't want to be on board with it than you have NO place in his life.
OK dealing with a child with FASD. |This is a post I didn't want to post but one I feel I need to post to move on and to forgive and not forget but to remember that "hey things happen" Yet at the same time I am saying things that are not true but make me think that really our society has become one where it doesn't matter if you do the right things or try to do the right things.... things can be determine on what others perceive and HEY your world can fall apart.
My biggest regret is not dealing with this sooner. I worry about my son ALL THE TIME. He is a sweet innocent boy who loves to play laugh and enjoy things. he is also a boy who is heading into high school and is maturing physically and yet mentally still in a struggle but wants to be older but then he comes a 7 year old. That is fine until you meet a person who says "no he is this age"
This is the dangerous type person to be around my son because you want to believe an adult until the adult must have some issues that are not resolved in their world that they throw at you. Case I am making, I have my FASD child and he plays with younger children.... no big deal. He plays with a child that is a lot younger and has a ball and the kid enjoys him. Their energy is high and they can have fun. Talk to the parents and remind them SEVERAL times that my child has no filters and you need to help.
so when my child is swearing and acting like a jerk send him home. Don't ignore it. Well this family did not listen because it is easier to let the kids play and eventually their child gets in trouble. So their child comes up with things he hears and so he blames my child. Guess what? it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. As a parent of a FASD child I believe what a parent is telling me and I get concern. Turns out the parent is full of shit and really thinks these horrible things and lets her child believe them. Not like an adult and talk to us but as we question the concern become bigger and then affects where I work and creates an awful environment..... what is their or her issues?
My child suffers. He doesn't understand and the sad thing is I don't either. I find out too late that there are things that must have happen with the OTHER family that has NOTHING to do with my child but they have FILTER it through mine. THEN get the a neighbor involved that is the police and then it becomes a police matter. Well at first I thought trusting the adult and something was up with mine child but then come to realize the Parent of this child must have SO MANY
ISSUES that she put on her kid that he has to blame mine. Why do kids lie? Not to get into trouble and yet that lie gets police involved that should not be and then because I feel my child has the FASD and that the Adult in the relationship would be clear .... my child is ACCUSED of things that never happen and that guess what become a negative thing within the people we deal with.
I AM UPSET with myself for thinking Adults in this world are being responsible adults and realizing they need to point a finger and walk away because of their own stupidity or whatever is happening in their lives to make sure other people suffer...... sad but my child is the one that suffers along with his brother.
The worst part is I thought Adults should know but I have learn Adults are idiots and have no maturity to understand. But a lesson learn too late and I can only build my child up over what I know. He is a great kid and he needs constand guidance and if you don't want to be on board with it than you have NO place in his life.
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So sorry you are going through this. Don't forget, there ARE people who understand and there ARE people who will support you. Unfortunately, the former are the ones who have gone through the same thing and the latter are few and far between. I thought adults knew better. I thought the system worked. Neither are actually true, particularly when it comes to children. Hope things are going better
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