life

Well, my mom has been struggling with her knees for a long time. First it was her back and then her knees. She had two knee replacements last October and they finally decided that there was a faulty piece of plastic in one of her knees that is giving her problems. So she was set to have surgery.

Well, she can't have surgery because they found a spot on her chest X-ray. This sucks and she had to wait for the doctor/surgeon to do a biopsy. They perform this last Thursday and said it would be weeks for the results.. huh?? They called the doctor on Monday and was told they have to wait until Tues. They get a call from the surgeon on Monday afternoon to come in on Tues at 3:45 pm. OK>> so they wait in the am. Her doctor calls and tells her flat out that it is not good news and that it is cancer and moves the appointment with the surgeons up to noon. Mom goes in only to hear the results and is told that she has to see the Onocologist for procedures. So why is she meeting with the surgeon in the first place? HE can't do anything with anyone.... why they have to drag this out for people that are already scared confused and upset just really annoys me today. Along with a list of other things but this is first on my mind.

Little Things

We just got back from our trip to Disney World and had a great time. Since we have been home I have notice a few things that are changing and that is good. I just received the report from the Research Triangle on the tests we had done last July with Brandon. In the report they talk a lot about Brandon and his ways of not focusing and easily distracted and strange noises and sounds he made etc..
However one paragraph really got to me. It was a test that I had to fill out and it states that is appears as Brandon has problems with executive functioning. However, these results should be interpreted with caution as the Negativity scale was elevated, meaning the mother tended to portray Brandon in a negative manner. This does occur when parents view their children in a negative light OR when children have significant behavior regulation problems. Given the mother's report of Brandon's behavior, it is possible that he is exhitbiting significant problems related to behavioral regulation and metacognition.

My first thoughts were, Yes I did protray my child in a negative light because I had BIG CONCERNS on certain behaviors. You don't go to a doctor and say you have leg pain and then discuss how well the other leg is doing. You talk about the pain. I felt very misunderstood at first and very angry. Then I re read it and I realized that they need to put this in... what if I really view my child negatively? I am sure I do because he can be very exhausting and when you have to repeat and repeat simple tasks on a daily basis you get drained. ANd when there is angression from your child you are scared for the other children in your home.
But anyway, it got me to thinking, maybe I do talk about the negative more than the positive. So this am I am trying to stop and think of all the things we go through everyday and how much some things have changed.

So with this here goes:
They walked to the school bus without fighting.
They are going to bed in a timely manner, since school has begun they are more willing to lie in bed and read books and have a calming evening.
They don't whine about not having the Wii or TV during the week
They were awesome on vacation, meltdowns too, but all kids will have them with so much stimulation, even the adults.
They are starting to use their alarms to get up.
I can go downstairs and remind them to finish dressing with out major battles or fighting.
They are doing their homework, or attempting it.

A lot of this has been since we have been back. It is only day 2 and this could change for any reason but for now I really need to STOP and ENJOY these milestones because they will start a fight going to the bus, but I can't dwell on that I MUST remind myself they have gone to the bus.... nicely.

ramblings and what nots

I get amazed at how people with blogs can update almost daily. Luckily they are stories I want to read. Many are from families that have adopted or have Large families and they talk about the highs and lows of parenting.

I feel like I don't post enough but then there is not that many exciting things but ramblings of our daily lifes. We just past Labor Day and we had a football game unfortunately we lost. Brandon and Josh did very well for the rest of the day without fighting and playing well together. Sunday Don and I shopped and the kids got to go bowling with the babysitter.

I have notice that during the week I have to say "no" to Wii and DS, Computer and TV for the kids to be able to be polite and working on their homework. They get along better and find old toys to play with. It is completely amazing. They feel like their world is coming to an end without the video but actually they are clear minded and more thoughtful and aware of their surroundings. However, I do miss the babysitter (Wii, TV or Computer) so I can get dinner ready, do some of my things etc. but I think the trade off is better.