School is starting

Summer is coming to an end for us.  We start school next week on Wednesday.  It is a new school for the boys.  It is called a magnet school but how correct that is will be seen.  I want my kids to go there for different reasons than the acedemics.  Granted, the extra time in math and science is great and I think will benefit my kids however that is not all.  We have to wear a uniform. 

When I first told Josh about the uniform he was excitied.  He said "great, then the kids won't make fun of my clothes."  REally?  kids have been making fun of your clothes?  I guess certain T shirts, football teams kids will make their comments known. 
Trying to explain to Josh and Brandon to ignore this gets to be difficult.  How much do kids have to ignore other kids that are disruptive and have to put other kids down to feel liked.  One of the more well liked girls in Josh's class last year would make him feel bad.  She just had to say your smile was wrong or his breathe smelled and the kids would ignore him etc.  Where as last year, before this girl came he was welled liked.  He had lots of friends in class and now not as much.  Why did this little girl who is completely adorable and nice and sweet (what I have seen) have to put down other kids?  Is she that insecure in herself... it makes you wonder if her parents either put her on a pedasil or make her feel worthless to have this girl make other kids feel bad.  She put down a lot of the kids in class than my Josh.  So I am happy with the uniform to make this a consistent with all kids... takes off the compitition.

Anyway, the new school is going to be all year school, but have as many school days as the rest of the district.  So that means we will have some time off in Oct. and more in Nov. and extra holiday time etc.  I am happy for this.  We like to travel and go places and these are good times to go cheaper.  So that was my first thought.  OK so it wasn't academic but my kids need breaks from school.  There are so many days in a row kids can go to school and deal with other kids insecurities.  My kids need the break to re group and feel special and know that these kids they deal with have the problems.  I am hoping with the uniform, a new school with "supposedly"  good teachers are hired and told to keep it exciting and the local superindentent is having his kids go there will make a difference.  They were hired and told to make the day exciting for the kids and want them to come back.  We shall see. 

Josh's Birthday

Good news... we got to celebrate Joshua birthday with minimal fuss from his brother.  Last year it was miserable... Brandon could not understand why his brother got things and he didn't, even though he did. 

So this year I had Brandon involved in everything for his brother (except presents) and he did really good, quite remarkable.  He did have a small melt down once he saw all the gifts but it was short lived.  I showed him some photos of his birthday and I showed him how many he got and what he had for his birthday and then he was able to enjoy his brother's a bit.  It was such a great moment to spend with both the boys.  Josh really loved the one gift I threw togther today because I was in a rush... wrestling cards with some money.  His big present I don't think he quite got it.  We are going to see the WWE wrestling LIVE in Rockford and he is sitting 5 rows back from the center ring... I don't think he got how good the seats were but as he tells his friends he is more excited.  The seats cost a good chunk of change but as Don said, this is a once in a lifetime deal so we thought what the heck.  This should be interesting.  Both boys will be flying after the show..

I think having Brandon makes suggestions and getting involved was the best idea yet, also I think he is maturing in some ways and the Benadryl (see below)

Benadryl?!?!

I have notice that since we have given Brandon Benadryl at night he seems to do better in the day.  Is he finally getting enough sleep?  Is it just being home for the summer?  I took him off  the Benadryl for a few nights because I didn't want him to be on it so much that when we started school he would not be able to use it but it made a difference.  When I took him off, he got more upset easier and quick to get a nasty temper over everything.  Almost aggressive but not physical but his voice and all gets loud and he wants to argue everything.  So last night I gave him the benadryl and as of the am he is still sleeping.

We started Focalin at a small dose and he is eating and it seems to work.  At least without big crashes but once school starts I think we may need more meds.  We shall see.  I don't have him study or have to concetrate much more than playing and swiming so don't really know if the meds are helping with staying focused.. I mean it is but is it enough?  I notice he is not as grabby but if it something he is interested in... well then he becomes my two year old which is something we are working on.

which way?

It has been a very busy summer and I can't tell you what we have done.  a lot but nothing specific.  The other day I quit giving Brandon's his ADHD meds.  He said they didn't work.  He was exhausted from camp and so I thought why not?

Then it happen.. he grabbed at everything and hitting things for sound and jumping all around and getting wild up over little things.  But he was calmer about it... had to be re directed a bit but calm.. not angry but mellow er if that is a word.  So then we got to the point he was so grabby and so in your way that I thought let me medicate him so we can get on without  3,000 re directs (ok a bit exacterated).  He was great with his brother but they both had 12 hours of sleep.  Then it happen... a moment that turn the whole day ugly.  Why we can't get past this... I will never know.  a small incident but enough for Brandon do think the worst in everything after that.. His focus althoug much better, was self absorb.. He was focused but ony worried about himself not the others around him and yet yesterday he was good with this.

So which do I want?  An angry person over one thing because it stays in his mind or a mellow boy who you have to stay on top of and re direct.. redirect.... redirect... redirect...