It is getting very confusing and frustrating around here. THe child with the FASD cannot comprehend the end of summer but knows it is coming.
However, I did learn to really interesting facts of fas kids that I will share that I also knew about however, just never put into words.
They will get something on their mind and can't let it go. They become so consumed by this thought that any logic or world around them is gone. Case in point, child knew we were going to Green Lake to visit family and some of our friends and the "possibility" of fishing was on the table. He was so consumed with fishing and wanting to fish that he was LOUD and carry on about everything else. He could not or would ot settle down to what was happening around him. He just took things to the extreme. Then this past Sunday he fished with some friends and when he was done we went home. He made a two hour car ride home easy and he ate like never before and was happy and content with what was happening.
What happen? He was so consumed with fishing he was out of control until he went and he did for a short while but it is what he remembered and what he wanted so until then nothing mattered. He could not articulate that he wanted it so bad but he would by being aggressive in other areas. Just very grabby and impulsive and like he had to go to the bathroom all the time. He was just worried he would not go fishing (even though reassured that he would) he could not settle into himself and around him until it happen.
This happens alot with a child with FAS kid that has a lot on their brain and they become obsessed with it and can't let it go and the sad part cannot really articulate what it is... you just have to know and learn them to understand and help them through this. We figured it out.
Also they don't like to be in trouble (who does) but they will give you the answer you want to hear and not what is happening. He had an accident the other night and hubby asked if he had wet the bedding... so not to get in trouble (even though he won't) he said "no" well when hubby checked he did have wet bedding and that was not a happy situation. I told hubby that you cannot ask a question directly to the child because they will give you what you want to hear not what is happening. So what he needed to do was say to child..'"it seems your PJ's are wet, how are the sheets?" well yes the sheets are wet so he will tell you they are wet or you get more creative asking these questions than just a direct question. They are honest but yet know when to tell you what you want to hear.... a mix up of brain activity...
However, I did learn to really interesting facts of fas kids that I will share that I also knew about however, just never put into words.
They will get something on their mind and can't let it go. They become so consumed by this thought that any logic or world around them is gone. Case in point, child knew we were going to Green Lake to visit family and some of our friends and the "possibility" of fishing was on the table. He was so consumed with fishing and wanting to fish that he was LOUD and carry on about everything else. He could not or would ot settle down to what was happening around him. He just took things to the extreme. Then this past Sunday he fished with some friends and when he was done we went home. He made a two hour car ride home easy and he ate like never before and was happy and content with what was happening.
What happen? He was so consumed with fishing he was out of control until he went and he did for a short while but it is what he remembered and what he wanted so until then nothing mattered. He could not articulate that he wanted it so bad but he would by being aggressive in other areas. Just very grabby and impulsive and like he had to go to the bathroom all the time. He was just worried he would not go fishing (even though reassured that he would) he could not settle into himself and around him until it happen.
This happens alot with a child with FAS kid that has a lot on their brain and they become obsessed with it and can't let it go and the sad part cannot really articulate what it is... you just have to know and learn them to understand and help them through this. We figured it out.
Also they don't like to be in trouble (who does) but they will give you the answer you want to hear and not what is happening. He had an accident the other night and hubby asked if he had wet the bedding... so not to get in trouble (even though he won't) he said "no" well when hubby checked he did have wet bedding and that was not a happy situation. I told hubby that you cannot ask a question directly to the child because they will give you what you want to hear not what is happening. So what he needed to do was say to child..'"it seems your PJ's are wet, how are the sheets?" well yes the sheets are wet so he will tell you they are wet or you get more creative asking these questions than just a direct question. They are honest but yet know when to tell you what you want to hear.... a mix up of brain activity...
