Ok so I pick up Brandon from school yesterday. Earlier he had eaten the hot lunch which was a corn dog. He wants hot lucnh and this is the only thing I know he will eat. So when Josh (been home sick) and I pick him up he is happy and in good spirits. So I decided right then and there to go and pick up the new prescription for him. As we head to the doctors office Brandon quickly becomes upset with his brother and hits him. Now I know he should not do this but Josh has that special way of provoking him silently to get Brandon to hit. I tell Brandon not to hit his brother who is now crying like he has been hit with a bat. Then after a few minutes Brandon is screaming or I should say talking very loudly trying to get a rise out of me and his brother. It works, Josh says something and Brandon hits. So now I tell Brandon and Josh any more yelling screaming or hitting I will pull over on the road and they can get out and hit and scream all they want.
A good 5 minutes go by and honestly something about Brandon coming off meds getting home from school and just becoming unglued.... he hits his brother (not provoked) he is just angry at something so he hits his brother. Now I have to pull over.
Brandon is like "no moma no don't pull over" but I tell him I have too., I cannot drive if he will continue to hit and scream, it is too distracting to me as the driver and I don't want ot get into an accitdent or to have him get hurt or his brother. He says he will behave. NO honey something is not right right now, you need to get out of the van and scream and jump around to handle your stress. He gets angrier (can't blame him) and then he kicks me... I mean he is so frustrated now he doesn't know what to do so he kicks me -wants to kick the van (stops himself) and starts screaming. Finally I hold him and ask him are you hungry? After thinking for a moment he sayd "YES" and crys and is still carrying on. I hold him and then I make him wait outside of the van for his brother safety as I move his carseat to the middle away from his brother and closer to me. He gets in and starts kicking the back of my drivers seat. I pause and I ask him, are your feet going to be ok? Can they control themselfs? Or do we need to run those feet around somemore. NO moma they will be good.
I get back in the van and drive to the nearest gas station and get crackers and juice. Now you think, why doesn't he just say he is hungry and wants a snack? Wouldn't that be easier... but it really isn't that simple. He is hungry he is tired from school, he is sad that he didn't get to stay home with mom and his brother did, he is stress from keeping it together all day at school.... now he can release it all plus I think his ADHD meds are wearing off and his brain is going a mile a minute. I realize this as we drive to the gas station but we do have a better afternoon. I should have predicted this, but you cant', things look one way and then sanp it goes the other way. I mean I am prepared but not quickly enough to see it coming.
We have an ok day after that, both the boys are a bit on the wild side but I can't blame them, it cold outside and they are limited to what they can do. So I do a good deed, give them hot baths early and snuggle into bed earlier to get them to sleep earlier.... see what tomorrow brings.
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I never take the kids anywhere that I wan tto after school, it's too much for them. Also, when we tried Ben on Metadate, it gave him horrible anger fits at the end of the day. He had not had the anger before, so we took him off the meds. You might want to try a different formulation/drug for his ADHD
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