WOW I have not been on this blog in over a year.. found this in the drafts
As we approach a few more weeks of school I notice things are going good and things are going bad. But with it being middle school and a freshman isn't that the way it should be? Days are good and days that are not as you want them to be.
This is still so true even a year later. Sigh.... it will not ever end I guess. It is coming to reality that everyday you don't know what you are getting to get. However, the Light is shining because there at some things you can.
One, he will always be listening to you even if you don't realize it. What usually takes a kid a few months to sink in will take an FASD child 3-5 years. Still it will come and go.
Two, he will be immature all the time. He can't help it, but even 5 year olds can be respectable, responsible, and caring.
Three, he will always be black and white and it ALWAYS comes when you are tying him to see things in a certain way, he will be very literal. At the wrong time, he can't grasp hyperbole.
Four, he does want to be like everyone else. He is not like everyone else, intelligently age at close to normal but emotionally 5 years old. Teaching him to understand it will be ongoing...
Five, he is always trying, it is just really difficult to see. You need to see him STOP and really watch and listen to him and you will be amazed. Hard to do when you deal with the daily life skills and the world reality around him and worry. People put things in categories and an FASD child will never fit into one.
So you try your best, ignore ones around you that don't want to learn about your child. They can't be in your child's life. Teachers, neighbors, friends, and family will see him for who he is and will learn about him and support you. If they don't want too, they need to be out of your world but teaching your child that can be a new adventure.
Which brings me to the child..... he is always loving and forgiving very forgiving. He can move on from anything in a heartbeat and be ok with it. Doesn't mean from time to time it will come out and he will be upset (again at an improper time) but he can move on. Something as a parent I have a hard time moving on.
J
As we approach a few more weeks of school I notice things are going good and things are going bad. But with it being middle school and a freshman isn't that the way it should be? Days are good and days that are not as you want them to be.
This is still so true even a year later. Sigh.... it will not ever end I guess. It is coming to reality that everyday you don't know what you are getting to get. However, the Light is shining because there at some things you can.
One, he will always be listening to you even if you don't realize it. What usually takes a kid a few months to sink in will take an FASD child 3-5 years. Still it will come and go.
Two, he will be immature all the time. He can't help it, but even 5 year olds can be respectable, responsible, and caring.
Three, he will always be black and white and it ALWAYS comes when you are tying him to see things in a certain way, he will be very literal. At the wrong time, he can't grasp hyperbole.
Four, he does want to be like everyone else. He is not like everyone else, intelligently age at close to normal but emotionally 5 years old. Teaching him to understand it will be ongoing...
Five, he is always trying, it is just really difficult to see. You need to see him STOP and really watch and listen to him and you will be amazed. Hard to do when you deal with the daily life skills and the world reality around him and worry. People put things in categories and an FASD child will never fit into one.
So you try your best, ignore ones around you that don't want to learn about your child. They can't be in your child's life. Teachers, neighbors, friends, and family will see him for who he is and will learn about him and support you. If they don't want too, they need to be out of your world but teaching your child that can be a new adventure.
Which brings me to the child..... he is always loving and forgiving very forgiving. He can move on from anything in a heartbeat and be ok with it. Doesn't mean from time to time it will come out and he will be upset (again at an improper time) but he can move on. Something as a parent I have a hard time moving on.
J
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