When I was a kid I looked forward to my birthday. Getting presents and eating cake. I was a princess in the family for the day. A happy time and I didn't really reflect what my parents were feeling/thinking about. I am sure they were remembering things I could not of cared about since I was too young to know, but what if you are adopted? It is not the same.
I was reviewing my child's grade today and notice a pattern and a realization on how their birthdays really reflect some kids. The week of Brandon's birthday his grades dropped. He is FASD which means he is emotionally younger than his age so he get very excited. Looking at the grades I have to ask is it his "emotional" side causing this lack of focus or is there more?
Tried to put in a picture but blurry.
grades went from B's and A's to D's and C's for that week in classes with weekly assignments.
Is he thinking about the day he was born and who gave him life and where are there and why? Or is he just emotionally that immature that he can't focus? I guess I will have to watch this next year as well. Luckily our other child has his birthday in summer. However, we have had issues as well but think we have worked through them. It doesn't mean his birthday will be easier at all but he will be able to put his feelings in compartments to handle it.
Their birthdays are always going to have more baggage than we realize and I am realizing one may never be able to handle it. Just another reminder of how much more my kids have to deal with on a happy occasion. Also how much more the brain damage of FASD does to Brandon. WOW I hope they enjoy celebrating their birthdays with us and have wonderful memories to go on but there is always so much more.... than we know.
I was reviewing my child's grade today and notice a pattern and a realization on how their birthdays really reflect some kids. The week of Brandon's birthday his grades dropped. He is FASD which means he is emotionally younger than his age so he get very excited. Looking at the grades I have to ask is it his "emotional" side causing this lack of focus or is there more?
Tried to put in a picture but blurry.
grades went from B's and A's to D's and C's for that week in classes with weekly assignments.
Is he thinking about the day he was born and who gave him life and where are there and why? Or is he just emotionally that immature that he can't focus? I guess I will have to watch this next year as well. Luckily our other child has his birthday in summer. However, we have had issues as well but think we have worked through them. It doesn't mean his birthday will be easier at all but he will be able to put his feelings in compartments to handle it.
Their birthdays are always going to have more baggage than we realize and I am realizing one may never be able to handle it. Just another reminder of how much more my kids have to deal with on a happy occasion. Also how much more the brain damage of FASD does to Brandon. WOW I hope they enjoy celebrating their birthdays with us and have wonderful memories to go on but there is always so much more.... than we know.
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