I have been reading other blogs and some families are in Ukraine right now adopting their children. I am so happy for them. It makes me remember my journey there and everything we went through and how far we have come.
We have our monthly meeting for attachement challenge children and Don and I were the focus of everything. We got on a roll about Brandon's behavior at bedtime. Now you are not suppose to focus in on his behaviors but rather "why" he is having this behavior and we keep coming up with "he is afraid to go to sleep" and someone mention maybe he is afraid we will be gone in the morning.. we have woken up with him for the last 7 years so that is hard to fathom. And yet it is very true... traumatized childrne live in constant fear and sometimes these fears don't really go away and they learn to cope. However, Brandon is not learnign to cope, he handles it like he always does, he gets loud and disruptive in the home.
So what to do? It was dicussed last night it might be more than fetal alcohol and more manic depression. How do you know if a 8 yr old is manic or bi-polar? We think it is time to test him and figure these things out. Scary because you really don't want to learn your child is manic or bi polar or anything more than you can handle. But on the other hand, I am told the medicines available now with the proper diagnose can help the child rather than harm or have the child live with a high and low.
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Wow, I wouldn't know where to go with that one. It seems we are doomed to spend the rest of our lives trying to find out how to best help our children. I have a horrible feeling that we will never really know. I keep hoping that I will wake up one day and they will have "grown out of it" and everything will be fine.....
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