I read a few blogs that are out there. I feel for some people and what they have to go through I really do. It is interesting when you read other blogs about people and when they bring their child home and you hear or read how wonderful things are and how they couldn't be happier. And then you see the blog where it goes wrong and there is trouble.
Now I have to admit, there are times I am truly jealous when families bring home their babies and things are going wonderful..... I didn't have that experience. What makes me sad is at one point their blog is turn off or password protected etc.. then you find out they are having lots of issues. Then I feel sad and bad for the families. I want to reach out but I really don't know how, my issues are not the same and some people don't want ot hear from strangers... (shut off their blogs). What is the proper thing to do?
Some respond and are glad to hear from you and don't feel so alone and well some get offended. So for now I just read and only make comments to people I have talked to some how.
I guess I post this because I just got off reading of one family that brought their daughter home and she was doing remarkable and then they vanish from blogging for months... then one day appeared and said their child was RAD, and they posted some of their problems. I really feel for this family. They have worked with her for 1 1/2 years and still some of their closest friends and family don't believe there are issues. Well I have to say if you every questions a family that has adopted and things look wonderful, go and talk with a social worker/ couselor with adoptive kids. They will give you the stats and how this is a HUGE problem in the adoptive world, it is workable and kids can be just fine, but there is lots of help and support from family and friends that are needed.
I guess it made me realize sometime you need ot put yourself out there so others might contact you instead of you contacting them. If anyone is reading my blog.
2 comments:
Well, you know I read your blog. You know I also closed my old one down. You probably also know that I am jealous when I read how well children are doing when they come home. Luckily, we are doing OK right now, but the challenges never go away....
I know this is an older post, but I really appreciate your honesty and being so open about your experiences. Steve and I always remember you speaking at our parent education day and teaching us the valuable lesson that issues can present themselves and to ask for help. As parents, you haven't done anything wrong. I know I can always turn to you if we ever have any issues in the future.
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