We just got back from our trip to Disney World and had a great time. Since we have been home I have notice a few things that are changing and that is good. I just received the report from the Research Triangle on the tests we had done last July with Brandon. In the report they talk a lot about Brandon and his ways of not focusing and easily distracted and strange noises and sounds he made etc..
However one paragraph really got to me. It was a test that I had to fill out and it states that is appears as Brandon has problems with executive functioning. However, these results should be interpreted with caution as the Negativity scale was elevated, meaning the mother tended to portray Brandon in a negative manner. This does occur when parents view their children in a negative light OR when children have significant behavior regulation problems. Given the mother's report of Brandon's behavior, it is possible that he is exhitbiting significant problems related to behavioral regulation and metacognition.
My first thoughts were, Yes I did protray my child in a negative light because I had BIG CONCERNS on certain behaviors. You don't go to a doctor and say you have leg pain and then discuss how well the other leg is doing. You talk about the pain. I felt very misunderstood at first and very angry. Then I re read it and I realized that they need to put this in... what if I really view my child negatively? I am sure I do because he can be very exhausting and when you have to repeat and repeat simple tasks on a daily basis you get drained. ANd when there is angression from your child you are scared for the other children in your home.
But anyway, it got me to thinking, maybe I do talk about the negative more than the positive. So this am I am trying to stop and think of all the things we go through everyday and how much some things have changed.
So with this here goes:
They walked to the school bus without fighting.
They are going to bed in a timely manner, since school has begun they are more willing to lie in bed and read books and have a calming evening.
They don't whine about not having the Wii or TV during the week
They were awesome on vacation, meltdowns too, but all kids will have them with so much stimulation, even the adults.
They are starting to use their alarms to get up.
I can go downstairs and remind them to finish dressing with out major battles or fighting.
They are doing their homework, or attempting it.
A lot of this has been since we have been back. It is only day 2 and this could change for any reason but for now I really need to STOP and ENJOY these milestones because they will start a fight going to the bus, but I can't dwell on that I MUST remind myself they have gone to the bus.... nicely.
2 comments:
Oh, I hate it when reports say we are negative. I think we just tend to be more realistic than most other parents and people aren't used to that level of candour. I have learned to live with it. I recognize that most people can't take my brutal honesty, but at least no-one can say they weren't warned!!!
Your boys sound like they are doing fine. Honestly, my two wouldn't be doing half as well if I had to take them to school every morning. Thank heavens for Sam!!!
Thanks Jane. It is nice to know we are not alone..
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