Happy's Mother's Day to Me

I awoke to a child that was dressed and ready for church because he wanted to watch the movie he had recorded and he gave me my Mother's day present.  It was a note that said I was a great Mom because I got him from Ukraine and if I didn't get him he wouldn't have an excellent life.  The other part said that the favorite part of his day is when we hug each other cause it makes him feel safe.. aahh

The other child thanked me for doing what I do every day and care for him when he is sick. (which by the way he is never sick.) With the I love you.

My hubbie said " what's for dinner?"  W-H-A-T??  Outside of the boys wanting to play with friend than be with their mother on mother's day... I was a bit upset.  I felt like I was still trying to keep things going without any effort from anyone.  Some things need to get done but come on... can you at least plan on a meal?  I could not believe it and my hubby felt I should be angrier at the kids... and I was like what message are YOU showing them.  I also cried my eyes out and had the poor me cry.  Some of that is because I can't just pick up and go because I want to.  I have a child that needs more directing and can't sometimes put into place a "spur of the moment" type thing.  It would make him miserable and he would make us miserable so you learn to pick which way you want to go..  So I cried because I didn't have a normal child and I cried because it is NOT that child's fault for the way he is on some things.  He has to learn things.

The other day he was in a disagreement with another boy.  I found out through his brother that he had provoke the boy by talking back.  The next night when Brandon was up for a snack because he could not sleep I talked to him about it.  Brandon was telling me a story about a boy who did a nah nah to him and how it upset him... my perfect time and I said, the other day you did the nah nah to another boy and he did not like either.  and Brandon replied Oh no mom I did not say nah nah to him .. I said ha ha. 

He really can't grip that it means the same thing and yet that isn't the point.  So I do have to explain that saying things sometimes can have many meanings and you HAVE to be aware of what you saying to not upset people... it went over his head at this time.