School fun or not

Brandon came home the other day and said there was a fight at school during recess.  I said oh really and he said "yes and everyone got suspended but me"  Why were you not suspended?  "I don't know."  Were you involved?  "no, it was between Taylor and Mason" and so it explained why he wasnt'.  We carried on a conversation of what happenand and other boys names were mention and no clear reasoning of anything.  He said he was called into the conference room to give his verson and Mrs. "P" let him go because he was not involved.. But some kids were suspended.  So we left it at that and I knew he would be out of sorts but he was done talking about it. 

Now here is where a FAS child needs help and guidance.  We got home and we started homework and Brandon was mad at everything.  I mean everything.  He didn't have the right pencil, he didn't understand his homework, he got mad at his brother.  He would not let Josh and I talk together, he was in a state of anger.  So I made him sit... ( this was not done calmly I must admit).  I was at my wits end.... and I had enought because I knew I could not reach him.  So he sat, and after a while I recieved a phone call.  A friend asking me to play bunko (?) and she asked me how Brandon was.  I was like he was upset why??  Well it turns out at some point during the recess fight Brandon was down on the ground and he had wood chips kicked in his face...

Now I can understand why my child is upset.  He is hurt.  I knew he was hurt before but asking what happen didn't involve my child but it did.  So now I go and ask him about the wood chips.  He said Mason flipped him when he was angry and kicked wood chips in his face.  HORRIBLE so my son was involved and hurt and I received no phone call.  I am mad.   I tried to find out from Brandon what has happen and his story keeps changing... at one time he was flipped then he flipped someone, more kids are involved... I can't really keep track.  Even calmly starting over the story changes. 

So when Don gets home, I have him talk with Brandon while I go to soccer practice with Josh.  When I get home Don has let Brandon vent for 40 minutes and he knows nothing more except Brandon had seem to have moved on and they tried to do homework and Brandon was emotionally gone.  Brandon has obsessed over this for so long he can't seem to focus on anything else.   

So I give him a bath and treat him like a baby.  He has emotionally gone to that level to feel secure, this is fine by me.  He is unable to complete anything so a calm bath, treating sweetly like a baby and a snuggle in bed calms him.  He can go to sleep.

The next day I email the principle and this is what I recieved:
 

Hello!  Yes, I dealt with the students involved yesterday.  My take on it was that there were two students arguing back and forth.  Another student came over to join in b/c he was upset at the student arguing with his friend. Then, two more students joined in.  Being a total of 5 students involved (not including Brandon).  Brandon somehow was in the middle of it, but not directly involved.  He said he was pushed down (although we couldn’t figure out by who) and that he was in the woodchips.  Believe or not, when we had the five students  in the room (Brandon was there briefly as well), they were all very honest and clear as to what happened, except for Brandon’s involvement.  They said he wasn’t involved but they weren’t sure how he was there and on the ground.  So, Brandon was sent back to class.

Does this help?  Not really, except we believe Brandon knows all the kids involved.. and he is troubled by their lack of friendship he doesn't know how to cope.  Was he flipped by the boy?  I don't think so, I think he dramatically fell to the ground during the altercation and while the kids were shuffling around chips got on his face.  Because at some point, when the noon aides arrive he was able to walk away with another friend.  He was at the sideline, not directly invloved...and as he was trying to tell us what happen he was all the other kids involved.  He cannot put what happened into the right folder of his brain to grasp what is happening.  Learning how to handle this takes lots of patience and lots of practice to understand.