As time goes on and you are repeating yourself over and over again you have to go stop.. is it me?
Then I realize yes it is but I am at a loss for change or trying for a change. I am like so many other players of children with FASD, you think they are going to get it and they don't. It is so hard to explain to people unless they see and hang with my child and really have to experience it.
In the AM he is coming down and bouncing off the ways and wanting so much approval and you are trying to look at your mail, or pay bills or just have a quick cup of coffee. He doesn't see what he is doing as he invades your space and how much he needs. So you try to stop doing what you are doing but you can't because you would be doing all day long at 5 minutes intervals.... so then you try to redirect.
It works, he says yes I understand and yes I will get it done. He leaves the room, and then calls your name and wants some help and then he can't find the one thing he need or he has re entered the room and has never done what he was suppose to do. OR the best thing is that you go upstairs after the child has brushed his teeth only to discover...
1. his bed is still not made after telling him 4 or 5 times and he going back upstairs to do it
2. his bedroom light is on after going upstairs to brush his teeth in the bathroom
3. the bathroom light is on and the toilet needs to be flushed.
4. somehow at some point he has possessed a candy bar and there a bits of wrapper on the floor
5. he did decide the one thing he wanted to wear (sweatshirt and sweatpants) might be dirty :)
beause he has worn them for 3 days and slept in them for two... but I won't point out it is 80 degrees today and has been for the last 3. He has to be told, it is warm out wear T-shirt and shorts.
I think I have stressed my point, the reality is I do this everyday over the same situation over the same stuff... and they say routin is great. I don't think they are refering to this routine.
Then I realize yes it is but I am at a loss for change or trying for a change. I am like so many other players of children with FASD, you think they are going to get it and they don't. It is so hard to explain to people unless they see and hang with my child and really have to experience it.
In the AM he is coming down and bouncing off the ways and wanting so much approval and you are trying to look at your mail, or pay bills or just have a quick cup of coffee. He doesn't see what he is doing as he invades your space and how much he needs. So you try to stop doing what you are doing but you can't because you would be doing all day long at 5 minutes intervals.... so then you try to redirect.
It works, he says yes I understand and yes I will get it done. He leaves the room, and then calls your name and wants some help and then he can't find the one thing he need or he has re entered the room and has never done what he was suppose to do. OR the best thing is that you go upstairs after the child has brushed his teeth only to discover...
1. his bed is still not made after telling him 4 or 5 times and he going back upstairs to do it
2. his bedroom light is on after going upstairs to brush his teeth in the bathroom
3. the bathroom light is on and the toilet needs to be flushed.
4. somehow at some point he has possessed a candy bar and there a bits of wrapper on the floor
5. he did decide the one thing he wanted to wear (sweatshirt and sweatpants) might be dirty :)
beause he has worn them for 3 days and slept in them for two... but I won't point out it is 80 degrees today and has been for the last 3. He has to be told, it is warm out wear T-shirt and shorts.
I think I have stressed my point, the reality is I do this everyday over the same situation over the same stuff... and they say routin is great. I don't think they are refering to this routine.
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I hear you. I keep wondering why I have to tell Maggie to flush the toilet EVERY MORNING.....
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