Dinner

Well, we went to the dinner. Usually the kids eat with supervision and the adults go in another room and chat and discuss life with attachment challenged children.
Well because it was a special "family night" with the pot luck we all sat together. Which was fine and could of been quite enjoyable. There was a family to my right with two kids that are relatively new and enjoy hearing from us because the dad is very similar to my husband in the approach to parenting and how to change. So it was nice to talk to them.
Now on the other side of us by me was another family that I love dearly. The mom and I get along, and we are the same age same feelings etc... but the dad. He understands the issues with these type kids but yet has the uncanning ability to rival mine up and think nothing about it. I even had to explain to him twice not to get my child wild up. He laughs like it is nothing. I mean he leans over and tells Brandon "have you heard this one? Beans beans the more you eat the more you toot.." Yes it can be amusing however, if your child already has a hard time coping with the crowd other distrations and can't focus on eating the last thing you want to do is get him more wild.
He would say other things etc... finally when Brandon was jumping out of his chair and not eating and talking very silly it dawns on him that he should have keep it a bit more low key.. duh. I must say that was the most frustrating thing to do last night trying to explain to another adult that also has a disregulated child not to engage in silly behaviors at the table. Especially when you are at an event that deals with kids and their disregulation.
It makes you wonder then what they do with their kids at home, do they let them act wild at the dinner table and be crazy? Some kids can be distracted and wild and still eat a balanced meal and some people don't mind a crazy dinner table at home.. I know it is hard sometimes to be sitting or eating for my one child at the dinner table but when they feel the need to start jumping around and acting all goofy and being loud and disruptive then I have a problem. I don't think I am expecting them to sit with their hands folded and sitting straight etc... I am not, but some manners is appreciated.