Well, we talked about watching the Packer game with my Dad or the boys Grandpa. I got a phone call after the FAS conference.... he had fallen and had broken his rib. he was in a lot of pain. So we came up for the game and hung out with Grandpa.
At 11:00 pm sunday night he decided he needed ER care. he was in too much pain. He is not breathing deeply enough to get proper oxygen and it HURTS to take super big breaths and it HURTS to cough. The two things he needs to do to heal. So they are keeping him in the hospital until his oxygen levels increase. Otherwise the next choice is him getting pnomonia. Not a good option. So we are taking care of his babies.. two girl dogs that are looking sad without my dad around. Hopefully they won't trip him when he comes home from the hospital.
It is scarey to see how frail your parent is becoming. I know and hope that once the pain is not so intolerable he will feel better and not feel old and frail. It must be scary to lose your spouse and then injure yourself where you need help and there is no one at home to take care of you. It would be depressing too and I hope and prayer he does not get too depressed over this but strengthens himself more than he has.
I think after my mom has died he has been stronger and more available to us kids. I enjoy this but really miss my mom too. Like with the suspension with Brandon. My dad said all the right things to me on the phone. He was very sympathetic and understood my saddness over my child's decsion. He did not say "oh boys will be boys" he said "I am sorry to hear that for you" or something like that. He did not dismiss it as nothing. I mean my sister laughed when she heard it but my dad did not or if he did he was quite good at listening to me. He has been very emotionally available to my other sister who is going through cancer journey. However, she is afraid that once her journey is done and she is going on with life she will not have a closeness or be able to converse with my dad.
I don't think that is true. I know I really don't have much in common with my dad either. However, we once were close for a father and daughter when I played tennis in high school and college and I think there is something still there. It is not as strong but I feel there are times I am still able to understand my dad. If I lived closer it would be stronger but I live out of town so I don't see him as much as I hope. Life with my boys is where my life is, they need me. And the really nice thing is my dad knows this as well because a long long time ago he had to raise three girls and a boy.
At 11:00 pm sunday night he decided he needed ER care. he was in too much pain. He is not breathing deeply enough to get proper oxygen and it HURTS to take super big breaths and it HURTS to cough. The two things he needs to do to heal. So they are keeping him in the hospital until his oxygen levels increase. Otherwise the next choice is him getting pnomonia. Not a good option. So we are taking care of his babies.. two girl dogs that are looking sad without my dad around. Hopefully they won't trip him when he comes home from the hospital.
It is scarey to see how frail your parent is becoming. I know and hope that once the pain is not so intolerable he will feel better and not feel old and frail. It must be scary to lose your spouse and then injure yourself where you need help and there is no one at home to take care of you. It would be depressing too and I hope and prayer he does not get too depressed over this but strengthens himself more than he has.
I think after my mom has died he has been stronger and more available to us kids. I enjoy this but really miss my mom too. Like with the suspension with Brandon. My dad said all the right things to me on the phone. He was very sympathetic and understood my saddness over my child's decsion. He did not say "oh boys will be boys" he said "I am sorry to hear that for you" or something like that. He did not dismiss it as nothing. I mean my sister laughed when she heard it but my dad did not or if he did he was quite good at listening to me. He has been very emotionally available to my other sister who is going through cancer journey. However, she is afraid that once her journey is done and she is going on with life she will not have a closeness or be able to converse with my dad.
I don't think that is true. I know I really don't have much in common with my dad either. However, we once were close for a father and daughter when I played tennis in high school and college and I think there is something still there. It is not as strong but I feel there are times I am still able to understand my dad. If I lived closer it would be stronger but I live out of town so I don't see him as much as I hope. Life with my boys is where my life is, they need me. And the really nice thing is my dad knows this as well because a long long time ago he had to raise three girls and a boy.
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