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Brandon did it again. This time he pocketed a small flashlight from a political office that he was at with his dad. DOn and Brandon went out this past weekend to walk and support a canidate and while doing this they went back to the headquarters.
I found the flashlight under his pillow and asked him about it... he didn't remember. However, Don saw it and he remember it and talked to Brandon again. The sad thing is that lately his hands haven't been holding and taking things and now they are again. however, this time it was at a place "outside" the home. Even if he found it on the floor, putting it in his pocket. Yikes
I used to get worried and talked to Don about him finding pens and pencils on the school floor, he thought that was normal and no big deal. I knew it was a big deal, just didn't know how to articulate it to him (Don). I read more things about this and how much trouble kids got into this with FAS and issues and how it can escatlate. Now it has. Even Don is feeling this.
I worry about Brandon's future.. then I know in my heart he will have a great future. He is smart but something is troubling him. I tought spending some time with Dad would be beneficial to him, but I guess not.
When I asked Brandon why he didn't tell me where he got the flashlight, he really said "I honestly forgot mom." I believe him. I think his brain really did shut down and he could not remember because he knew he errored. I talked briefly about school again this morning and he said he was nervous.
Why? He didn't know but something about school is bothering him. Then we talked about his lunch group (a girl had been taking his food) and he said that the VP knew and things were better. He hates math and does not like the way the 6th graders act in that class. I looked at his schedule and I realized it was right before lunch. Or as he said "not before lunch mom, it is recess than lunch"
That is another issue that can get funny and hard. He had a book he was reading and the other night I asked him to read it together. He said he was done. How can you be done? He said he had finished it because his bookmark was right here. He then proceeded to find the page (page per page mind you) where his bookmark was.... HUH?? Apparently he finished because he had the bookmark further in the book, and when I asked him if he had noticed that he was missing part of the story? He said yes but the bookmark was placed here... then he proceeded to take 15 minutes showing and repeating to me where the bookmark was. I tried to get through to him that it didn't matter where the book mark was he needs to go back and find where he was and could remember and start reading from there. He was so obsessed with showing me where the bookmark was he could not wrap his brain around where it should be. Why it was even moved I don't know. I finally said "yes I know the bookmark was on this page but not on the right page so you will need to go back and re read from chapter 4 (where I knew he was) and read it again." I acknowledge what he was saying and was able to just "Tell him" what he needed to do because he could not in the mometn understand. He was not happy but willing to do so. ... the thought process is different. I know this but in these moments a parent has to wonder.
Brandon did it again. This time he pocketed a small flashlight from a political office that he was at with his dad. DOn and Brandon went out this past weekend to walk and support a canidate and while doing this they went back to the headquarters.
I found the flashlight under his pillow and asked him about it... he didn't remember. However, Don saw it and he remember it and talked to Brandon again. The sad thing is that lately his hands haven't been holding and taking things and now they are again. however, this time it was at a place "outside" the home. Even if he found it on the floor, putting it in his pocket. Yikes
I used to get worried and talked to Don about him finding pens and pencils on the school floor, he thought that was normal and no big deal. I knew it was a big deal, just didn't know how to articulate it to him (Don). I read more things about this and how much trouble kids got into this with FAS and issues and how it can escatlate. Now it has. Even Don is feeling this.
I worry about Brandon's future.. then I know in my heart he will have a great future. He is smart but something is troubling him. I tought spending some time with Dad would be beneficial to him, but I guess not.
When I asked Brandon why he didn't tell me where he got the flashlight, he really said "I honestly forgot mom." I believe him. I think his brain really did shut down and he could not remember because he knew he errored. I talked briefly about school again this morning and he said he was nervous.
Why? He didn't know but something about school is bothering him. Then we talked about his lunch group (a girl had been taking his food) and he said that the VP knew and things were better. He hates math and does not like the way the 6th graders act in that class. I looked at his schedule and I realized it was right before lunch. Or as he said "not before lunch mom, it is recess than lunch"
That is another issue that can get funny and hard. He had a book he was reading and the other night I asked him to read it together. He said he was done. How can you be done? He said he had finished it because his bookmark was right here. He then proceeded to find the page (page per page mind you) where his bookmark was.... HUH?? Apparently he finished because he had the bookmark further in the book, and when I asked him if he had noticed that he was missing part of the story? He said yes but the bookmark was placed here... then he proceeded to take 15 minutes showing and repeating to me where the bookmark was. I tried to get through to him that it didn't matter where the book mark was he needs to go back and find where he was and could remember and start reading from there. He was so obsessed with showing me where the bookmark was he could not wrap his brain around where it should be. Why it was even moved I don't know. I finally said "yes I know the bookmark was on this page but not on the right page so you will need to go back and re read from chapter 4 (where I knew he was) and read it again." I acknowledge what he was saying and was able to just "Tell him" what he needed to do because he could not in the mometn understand. He was not happy but willing to do so. ... the thought process is different. I know this but in these moments a parent has to wonder.
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