Last night was interesting with Brandon I had an a ha moment.
I had an issue with Brandon. First of all we were clipping along really well and he was into doing his math "yes I said math", he did have a calculator but he was doing good. He was doing good until I handed a paper that he had to do.... he went into a tirade.. He started yelling about kids at school and how they talk to him, what his brother had said, and he went off on many different directions....
I made him sit and not say a word. I needed him to think and for me too . We did. It turns out he didn't understand his homework assignment, he was confused and it made him feel dumb/studpid. He is neither dumb or stupid.
As I really listen to him it became more apparent he was worried about going to the wrestling try outs to see if he would like it. He was nervous and this makes sense. But looking at this homework assignment that he could not do made him feel inadequate.. so then it floated to being nervous about going to the wrestling try out and it came to a head but without mentioning any of this.
The real test is finding "what is behind" the child's thought process.
I was given this article by one of the FAS group mothers.... hope it reposts here.
It talks about how a child with FAS doesn't really manipulate but rather how their brains are trained into wanting something and trying to get it.... sad really. They know they are missing something and they try to fill this void in other ways (or in my child's case... his fear or uncomfortable at going to the wrestling try outs) I think it is the hard reality they have to deal with but don't know exactly what it is. This article talks about making friends...
I had an issue with Brandon. First of all we were clipping along really well and he was into doing his math "yes I said math", he did have a calculator but he was doing good. He was doing good until I handed a paper that he had to do.... he went into a tirade.. He started yelling about kids at school and how they talk to him, what his brother had said, and he went off on many different directions....
I made him sit and not say a word. I needed him to think and for me too . We did. It turns out he didn't understand his homework assignment, he was confused and it made him feel dumb/studpid. He is neither dumb or stupid.
As I really listen to him it became more apparent he was worried about going to the wrestling try outs to see if he would like it. He was nervous and this makes sense. But looking at this homework assignment that he could not do made him feel inadequate.. so then it floated to being nervous about going to the wrestling try out and it came to a head but without mentioning any of this.
The real test is finding "what is behind" the child's thought process.
I was given this article by one of the FAS group mothers.... hope it reposts here.
It talks about how a child with FAS doesn't really manipulate but rather how their brains are trained into wanting something and trying to get it.... sad really. They know they are missing something and they try to fill this void in other ways (or in my child's case... his fear or uncomfortable at going to the wrestling try outs) I think it is the hard reality they have to deal with but don't know exactly what it is. This article talks about making friends...
An article worth reading
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